Book therapy

If you want to read something different than a self-help book this can be a good choice. “Educated” is a beautiful memoir written by Tara Westover. She was born in 1986 on a remote mountain in Idaho and she is the seventh child of a Mormon family. Her parents believed in a patchwork of paranoid ideas well outside the mandates of religion, like if the End of the Days was always to hand. Her mother was an herbal healer and an unlicensed midwife while her father owned a scrap yard , where his children labored without the benefit of protective equipment.

Public school was mistrusted by Tara’s parents which meant her determination to leave home and get a formal education amounted to a rebellion against her family’s world. The author examines her life from childhood to University (where at the end she gained admission). She keeps trying to understand why her loved ones doesn’t support her important achievements but at some point she has to make a decision.

I liked this book because I discovered an hidden reality of the extreme American life, it makes you think about what we consider obvious ( which is not obvious for everyone ).

This book is #4 on the hardcover nonfiction list of the New York Times best sellers, highly recommended.

Are you living a good life?

I really like self-help guides and considering that a few friends recommended me this book, ‘The subtle art of not giving a f*ck’ written by the American blogger Mark Manson, one month ago I decided to buy it. I was really curious because since it was published in 2016 this book has spent several weeks on the New York Times best sellers list (#5 now in Advice, How-to and Miscellaneous).

I think I got this book at the right moment I needed it, I had to handle a situation that I couldn’t control and, even if it is hard to say if I like the way it is written or not ( very conversational ), I find it useful.

The author says that it is impossible to be positive and happy all the time contrary to the models proposed by modern society. Isn’t it true that we have always to be perfect, beautiful and successful? Why are we so frustrated when we can’t get what we really want? The answer is: we can’t accept failures.

Failure is part of our lives and in most of the cases it doesn’t depend on our decision, this is why is important to learn how to apply acceptance to all the situations that we face. Experience is the key to be stronger and happier, we have to know which are our limitations and we have to accept them.

This doesn’t mean that we don’t have to pursue happiness and success, but we have to understand is that ‘improvement at anything is based on thousands of tiny failures, and the magnitude of your success is based on how many times you’ve failed at something’ as Manson says.

We can’t control other people’s actions and we can’t deny negative emotions, this will just make us struggle.

Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and start confronting painful thruths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek.

Are you looking for a self-helping guide to get to know yourself better and accept the way you are?This is the book for you.

Reading in quarantine

In this period of quarantine due to the spread of Covid-19 I would like to take the chance to share one of my greatest passions: reading. I have always loved to read, since I was a child and once I grew up I had the opportunity to read books in different languages ( which is even more interesting ).
Reading opens the mind and it has other several benefits like memory improvement. My intention is to recommend some books that you may like. I know that now can be difficult to get them at the library or in a bookshop but you can choose an e-book or an audiobook edition.

About 7 months ago I was at the library in Geelong ( Australia ) and while I was checking the self-help section a book caught my attention. It was ‘ 5 love languages ‘ written by the American author Gary Chapman.
When I got at home and I tried to get some information about the writer I found out that this book was one of the New York Times best sellers, so I was even more curious to read it.
‘ The 5 love languages ‘ is a guide to help every kind of relationship ( like married or dating couples, children, teenagers, friends and coworkers ).The way we give and receive love doesn’t correspond sometimes to what other people expect and this is why there could be misunderstanding. This book shows how it is possible to communicate our feelings but also it helps us to understand which are the priorities of people who surround us.
I was not surprised when I saw that this book has been in the New York Times best sellers list for 306 weeks (°4 at the moment), is this the proof that we all need to know more about love? Isn’t it perfect to read this book in a period where we have the chance to stop and think about what really matters?
Thank you for reading this post.

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